We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.

Asides from becoming enslaved to others as I mentioned in my previous post, there is another negative effect of lack of self love; it is envy. Marriage makes us one body with many (2) members, and these members do not all have the same function. A body cannot function if it's members are against one another.

In my years of experience with married couples, I discovered a trait that has destroyed many homes. Our society arrogates men the responsibility of catering for their families but times are now hard and women now have to join the struggle. Some women in this vain, have become outstanding in their achievements and are even the reason why the society got to hear about their husbands. Rather than appreciate these diehards, most of these men have become ungrateful and envious, going as far as destroying what their women have worked for.

In as much as you are married and are the head of your family, you are not also by the same providence, of a greater destiny than the woman you are married to. She may as a matter of fact, be your door to success in life. And until you let that door open, you'll remain where you are.

It  is so liberating when your heart is free from jealousy and envy. Envious Spirit will only remind you of the lack in your life and will not allow you to celebrate all the amazing things in your life. You must learn to count your own blessings and not those of your partner. You must see in yourself, something unique which the other does not have. Appreciate it, nurture it and put it into use. Then support your partner in what they are doing too. Understand that you both are a system and whatever is a win for him/her is same for you too.
Let love lead your marriage, love does not envy!